Every January 1st, it stares me in the face….the not so anticipated new year’s resolution. I have to admit, I’m not a big fan. I don’t really need one more thing to put pressure on me…especially the pressure of failing that shiny new year goal…whatever it may be. I think to myself, if I couldn’t do it last year, what makes me think I can do it this year?…because undoubtedly it’s probably the same resolution/s I’ve had every year…And when I do fail, because no one is perfect (no matter how hard I try), I kick myself over and over again because I couldn’t maintain the level of expectations I set for myself. So, are resolutions bad?..No, absolutely not. But, how I respond to myself when I can’t maintain my (often times unrealistic) resolutions is bad. What am I going to do about it? If I say I will change, doesn’t that sound like a new year’s resolution?! I guess what I am hoping to accomplish is to live this next year with goals in mind, but not putting so much pressure on myself if (and when) I don’t live up to them……For example:
I would like to spend more time alone with God, but I will not condemn myself if I only read a page from a devotional book
while sitting in the bathroom.
I would like to feed my family more clean meals (yes, I’ve jumped on that wagon), but I will not condemn myself when I take them to McDonald’s on occasion….because a kid needs a happy meal every once in awhile even if the chicken isn’t real.
I would like to actually “enjoy” cooking, and if I ever get into a nice dinner making groove, I will not condemn myself for using store bought meat and tomatoes from a CAN…because I just know if I eat too much chili using canned tomatoes, I will surely kill us all….
I would like to spend more time connecting with my children, but I will not condemn myself if I can’t give them my full attention every second of the day.
I would like to be a better photographer, but I won’t condemn myself when I can’t devote as much time to it as I used to because I want to have more time with my family.
I would like to learn to play the guitar with my son, but I won’t condemn myself if I only learn the basic “g” and “c” chords and never get beyond the “smelly cat” song talent.
I would like to be more patient, but I will not condemn myself when I have moments of yelling…because let’s face it, I have four children and my patience was near gone after two.
I would like to be an all around better person, but I will not condemn myself when I don’t live up to my expectations of being that “better person”……
My hope for you and for me this year is to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves and to be happier knowing that we are perfectly imperfect!
What do you hope for this year?